Bewildered

[KiwiMan]

Hi Pearl,

I called her mainly to let her know what our daugther had seen. Then the rest of the conversation was also her telling me what had happened. My daughter actually told me what happened and who was there and where they all slept. It sounded like my wife was telling the truth, as it matched exactly what my daughter told me. And I am sure she is not manipulating my daughter as otherwise she would not have approached me with what happened to Mum last night.

But yes, I have been pursuing a bit... but she also see's me as strong and not acting like I have before. In all honesty I feel in control of myself for the first time in a while. And normally If i had heard something like that had happened. I would have gone berserk. But I didn't.... and I guess that is part of the detachment process.

She told me last night she doesn't have many people she can talk to about her feelings. And I was almost counseling her over the phone. (Maybe I should have just told her what our D had said and then said goodbye and left her to deal with it.)