Divorced and want to reconcile...

[JMC]

I would suggest you are getting good advice here. I am in the same camp as dday. My MLC-exW lives with one of the guys she cheated on me with. We do not keep in touch (she recently de-friended me on Facebook after she was the one who invited me to be her friend - gotta laugh), but I would consider it if she would approach me with the option of counseling.

I would also agree that 'frail' might describe my emotional state.

It seems to me though that most women who walk away do not come back. That could be just my interpretation, but it seems to me that the majority (significant majority) of success stories here and on other sites involve the straying husband returning home.