We also "get it" because we are all going through something similar. We speak from experience. Your friends - who love you very much - may or may not have been in your shoes, so they guess at what to say. They are trying to protect you even if it's not the advice you need.
It's a great support to know that there are many people on this forum going through similar circumstances. We also refer to the DB to have a guide through troubling times. It's a unique place to get a unique perspective.
