Bewildered

[KiwiMan]

Thanks for that GH31 -

My daughter came to me last night and said that the man i have mentioned before kissed mum.

I rang my wife and just asked her to be honest with me. My daugther did say that Mum didn't kiss this guy and that the guy had tried to kiss mum. They were all drunk and they weren't the only 2 there. Another girl was involved and apparently they were all drunk and just mucking around... The girl was trying to kiss my wife too.

Yes, its hard to beleive, but I then spent about half an hour on the phone to my wife. She was saying that she knows that the guy likes her, but she doesn't feel the same about him. Hes just good to talk to. Sounds like more of an emotional affair.

She said she doesn't know whats going on in her brain at the moment and that she wants to stop drinking and smoking.

I think the fact that she got caught being stupid and our daughter knows... it appears to have been a wake up call.

We even talked about the possibilty of her moving back and sleeping in seperate rooms to give things a try. But I have left her to think about that.

I explained there can only be positives if we give it another try and that it would also help me out by knowing that we had both given it a shot. I also said that if we agreed to something like that... we would both have to be faithful during that time. And that its not just for me, but for the kids, herself and me.

Only time will tell.

The interesting thing is that when we were talking last night its one of the first times over the last 10 years she has actually talked to me about her feelings and I told her that and said that I am here to talk.

At the end of the phonecall she said "Thanks so much for talking to me" I also think that she was surprised that even after what I just found out about the kiss etc etc I was still quite calm and collected and in control.

I feel better today knowing that I am dealing with everything really well. Obviously I have my moments. But I guess the general theme on here is the PATIENCE.