THanks EB! In all my venting, I forgot to mention the biggest improvement of all!
I got acknowledgement for my changes.
H has been obsessed with a minor car accident that occured last week. To make a long story short, an elderly man hit H in a parking lot, tried to escape, evaded the insurance co. calls and finally got his car fixed and said he had no idea what H was talking about.
H in his normal rage-filled way has been obsessed with vengence fantasies for this guy all weekend. H says it's not the money, it's that H wants to make a point to the guy that he can't escape the truth.
I asked if this is how he feels about me - (like he wants the legal sep. to "make a point" and get me to "face up to things").
He ACKNOWLEDGED that I'm different. I have apologized, owned up to my part in things, taken responsibility. That guy isn't.
Yeah!
Also - a small detail but I noticed - H showed up this afternoon unannounced presumably he "forgot something" but he has never done this. He is coming over tonight so why would he swing by in the afternoon? H is not conscious of it, but obviously more comfortable coming and going - like this is his home.
He also ate a quick lunch here - he often rejects food here.
