NC with wife for one week

[Ready2Change]

I understand the communication issue O SO WELL.
I practice all my new found skills with everyone else. Everyone else is very easy. MsR2C has huge walls up still.

Sooo.....

Sent her a text on Friday to have a good weekend at work.

Do you you think W wants to be told what to do? Keep the texts to "Business only". -- "I have your mail, would you prefer me to "Choice A" or "Choice B"?

Be sure you are willing to live with either choice, but give her two options, she will feel she is making a choice and not being told what to do.

Next time you see her, maybe a "How are you?" and just listen. She may say "Fine". Use your senses and see if she will open up more. Choices for your response "You sound sad", "You sound angry", "You sound XYZ", "You look tired"

...So when I talked to her had wanted me to call before and said that it was ok to talk. Now when I do call she doesn't answer or call back.

Just remember she is hurt and confused. Patience, forgiveness and understanding.