Yes, the letters are a chance for me to focus my feelings without feeling like I have to say the "right" thing. I can let my feelings go without literally lashing out (though I haven't been vicious in any of them). I also avoid launching a barrage of letters at her that would make her run the other way.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)