Dreams of a New Normal...

[RedSoxFan]

I agree RSF. Problem is, damage is being done. My own clock is ticking. My boys are going to be devastated when we move without daddy. As I immerse myself in my own life and managing the affects of all of this on my kids, I see the space for H in my life diminishing greatly. Granted, I never thought I would speak to him again after seeing the boys in tears when he left many months ago, so who knows what I am capable of forgiving? But, as you know, there is possibly a point of no (or highly problematic) return. My kids' hearts are in the middle here.

And that is perhaps a factor overlooked in your sitch too. At some point, we aren't just seeking closure and emotionally predictability for ourselves but for our children too..

So what are you coaching me to do and why? You are essentially coaching your husband. If we truly believe there is hope, what does it look like and how do we leave room for it while still taking care of ourselves and our children??