Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[hoosiermama]

No, no -- it was a personal shortcoming (dispositional) and not an artifact of outside forces (situational).

But again, largely subjective. And often tinged with revisionist thinking/memory. And ultimately perceived in context of subsequent experience (which, admittedly, is also necessarily revisionist).

To wit: xH left me to walk the hospital corridors alone while in labor with fetal demise-d son #2 while he sat with his own support person in the cafeteria. Initially too shocked-and-awed to think about it at all; later, during Retrouvaille, tried to see it as xH being too traumatized himself to provide the intense support I needed. In light and in context of more recent experiences--and they are legion--xH simply did not have the capacity or the strength to "man-up" and look beyond his own needs to consider anyone else's. Never did, probably never will; data analysis reveals this was hardly an isolated or unique behavioral response. Sadly, had he not removed himself from the equation I would most likely have continued to seek further, conflicting data in hopes of reaching a more desirable analysis. Which is why I'd have made a lousy scientist.