I did look back at the beginning of my thread per your suggestion - ack, have I changed at all? The same patterns/issues are on the table, I guess my handling of them are evolving. But H's anger, the stress over dinner with S5, the constant criticisms about the house are still in my face whenever H is around. The changes are - me staying calm - me doing things for me -more talking between H and me - some good times as a family - I've gotten a few appologies.
This is like swimming in molasses, isn't it? I need some more radical 180s to get this moving - any ideas, folks?
