Not a bad idea to see if she can tell you what she would want, but I wouldn't be surprised if she can't.
Just my $0.02 worth, but when I read your last post, what jumped out at me is it appears she is equating "foundation" with what she perceives her feelings to be or should be. Just sounds to me like she's stuck back at "love is a feeling" v. "love is a decision."
Maybe it's that she is afraid to let herself be vulnerable again. Maybe she doesn't realize that but still guards herself from re-connecting with you.
