Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

Yeah hanging in there. Yesterday she came and picked up the kids from my place. I made a big pot of pho and she ate some and grabbed the kids and left. She wants to drop of the kids again this friday so she can go to a baby shower Sat afternoon. I told her fine at first but now I can't find a sitter. I work 9-2 on Saturdays. Its hard to go dark when there is kids. I know I haven't tried everything yet to save my marriage. Just trying to focus on school and work and my kids now.

[texasbobby]

man u sound much more focused and in control today. im glad u are able to take the focus off your m for now. just stay confident.

[sumguy27]

TB I may sound like it but like you I can't stop thinking about my wife. I can't stop thinking of how to fix this. I can't stop thinking of a plan and ways to improve my situation. I try and focus my energy on work but I tend to wander back here or read books.

[texasbobby]

i know the feeling. even going out and having a good time soon returns to thoughts of her. it damn sure aint easy.

[sumguy27]

things occured today. Its raining like crazy. The W calls me at 12:23 saying she needs help with her wipers. I asked her if she is coming right now to my work place. She said yes. We both went to the local Walmart didn't say much. She paid for the wipers, and I got back to my work place and installed them. She then asked" are my tires low?" I told her that I'm not going to check them in the pouring rain. I'm already soaked. So just said ok bye.

[sumguy27]

weekend wasn't so bad. We still had to communicate about the kids. She picked them up sunday night. I called her by her nick name again "nie". Do other people have this problem? Its not like I was trying to do it on purpose. I'm just so use to calling her by either Hunnie or "nie". Or course she just said "would you stop calling me that."

[texasbobby]

yeah i do i call all female friends babe or hun, so my wife has said the same thing. i wouldnt stress it.

[sumguy27]

Yeah I know. It also sucks because I wanted her to go to the Firehouse concert this weekend. Which I know she won't. I might just have to go with some other friends who actually like 80's rock.

[sumguy27]

Great I keep going down cheeseless tunnels. Last night I was on Myspace and I saw she was on. So I IM her to check on my lilo girl. Then being stupid I asked her if she would like to go to the Firehouse concert. Obviously it was a "no thanks". Then she pushed my buttons with R talk. I got to stop myself from talking with her about the R. It was so easy to give in. It just came down to her telling me to move on and I just kept telling her that I'm sorry you feel that way. Then she tells me that I need to just send her back to her clan. I told her that I'm not going to do any of that. If you want to do the work of making it offical then you do the work. She asked me "then how?" WTF? Like I'm going to guide you in really splitting us up. I just need to stay away from her and any kind of contact with her. GRRR! So mad at myself its always like this in the begining of the week for me.

[sumguy27]

So today I told myself that I was not going to contact her right away with any text or phone calls. I always give in right away. My 180 was to not text back or answer her phone calls.

Her first text this morning:

10:00am W: hey so r u taking the kids next wk?

She then calls at 12:23 i didn't answer

Then she calls at 3:30 I didn't answer
Then it was 3:47, 3:50

Text:
3:57 Dude wtf I'm just tryin to get a hold of u so I can get ur info to pay S med bills

Then she calls again. Now my on my direct line for work then my cell again. I didn't pick up or do I plan on talking with her anytime soon. I'm just tired of dealing with her today.