rye, I know what you are going through and it is an awful thing. And I know now after all these months there is nothing we can do for them. They have to face the fact that they have a problem and need help and then just be there for them if they make that call to us.
My H has moved 3 times now, I think looking for a place to be happy and it hasn't happened yet. As far as this last place I really don't know. But I know for a fact he wasn't happy at home then moved in with parents told me he wasn't happy there, then D told me he seemed sad at the last apartment and just moved again. IMO they are looking to be happy without us and are not finding it so hopefully they will realize what is going on and seek the help they need.
I never thought in a million years it would be this long for my H. Thought he would have returned a long time ago. Boy I was wrong. So please just try to hang in there and remember they are ill. I just keep on praying and praying and trying to give it to God because I have my children to worry about first. I do love him dearly and would do anything for him to return but it took my over 9 months to realize I have no control over this situation. Only God does.
