For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[WalkingMan]

Courts,

I say only do what you're comfortable with. If you feel uncomfortable with him coming by, tell him you that day is not good and leave it at that. He doesn't need an explanation and it will keep him guessing about what your are doing. Be polite and nice, but let him see some happy indifference and be vague.

Yea, I hate the rollercoaster. I once told my XW that I was strapped in and ready for the ride. The reality was that I should have just got off for a bit and let her rage for a while. There's no use in me letting her drive me to the funny farm, so I detached and worked on me.