Hi Everyone and thanks for your advice. I was having a really bad time and didn't come on. I don't know what to think now. So H calls again, one week after and tells me nicely that he paid on the other loan also and that he is thinking about paying the small one off in full. I stayed nice and calm and just said ok. He owes me so much money for these bills. Anyway, he said that he sent the check in and wanted me to know. And that he can't do check by phone because I changed the pin number so I told him I would call the bank the following morning and see what I can do about it. I text him and told him that all he has to do is call the bank and ask for ext. such and such and give my ss# and they will take his payment.
I haven't heard a word since then from him. I'm not giving the pin number since it is linked to my checking account. He saw D on Sunday and she said they had a good time. As far as the letters go to D I have to screen them my D's C told me too because he is messing with her head.
I have been bothering him almost every month about loans due by mailing him copies of the statements and telling him that if he doesn't pay I'm going to have to file.
H never cared before so I don't know what has hit him to pay these bills now.
I'm GAL but it is really hard with both jobs and kids and stuff. My S is upset because he text H and he never answered him, so I'm hurting for my S. S knows that H is seeing his other 2 children plus our D and not him. My heart is breaking for him but there is nothing I can do.
I haven't bothered H at all. Only text if he does first, and if he has a question when he calls (last call was on Friday morning) I text the answer. H did say about texting and driving (drives truck for a living), but it seems like instead of waiting to get where he is going he wants me to call him but I don't just text the answer.
Am I doing the right things? So confused and upset today.
