WOW!!! I am surprised. You must be very proud of yourself of how you handled this. Hugs K
K I was proud of myself.
For the first time, if I am honest with myself looking back, I did not try to use our children, our love, our history, etc to convince him to change his mind. It isn't like I would say it that directly, but I might have worded questions about sharing holidays/birthdays to try and make him feel guilty for upsetting the children's lives. Make sense?
But this time I didn't do that. I did bring up other people in our lives and each time he would say he didn't care what anyone else would think, he would do what he wanted (such as having me join him and the kids for church on Christmas Eve or leaving me on his insurance indefinitely).
It felt good in a strange way. I was organized and businesslike but at the same time able to tease and joke with him. I said something about he wouldn't be a nice boyfriend (to a future gf) if he did x,y,z with me after we D'd and he said he wasn't being a nice boyfriend now.
I said in a light voice "Prob not real appropriate to be joking about your girlfriend with me yet". He said, "I meant a bad boyfriend to YOU"...
Anyway it was surreal as at dinner we even had a conversation about a Vince Vaughn movie coming up (Couples Retreat, ironically enough)and he acted like he would want to go when it comes out...
And yet here we are writing up our agreements for the divorce settlement. I am just glad that it appears it won't turn ugly. So time to get it written up and signed before it has a chance to go south.
