The fact that my H slept with someone else... totally forgivable. The fact that my H gave his heart to someone else and put her before wife and children and LEFT.... hmmm, not sure (but still trying).
That makes total sense.
When I told her I was leaving and she was arguing for me to stay she said she could let me go if I would tell her I didn't lover her. So I did. It was a lie so that I could get out. I never stopped loving her, ever. I left because I was in a crisis, I felt like I was going to explode. OW made it easier but that's not why I left. I know that in my heart. Still, W's experience is her reality and all she knew is that I left for OW and didn't love her.
I can't blame her at all. Biggest mistake of my life. With the consequences being the loss of my marriage and family.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09