Newcomer hurting badly

[daybyday]

Decoy, so sorry to hear of another loving spouse being put through this sh##. I went through a very very similar situation as you about 2 years ago. I heard the ILYBINILWY speech, distant cold, the whole nine yards. Follow the advice of all. You need to snoop. Otherwise you will just torture yourself wondering. I did my fair share and found out at least an EA. I had a lot of chnging to do as far as she was concerned, but she still loved me. Your W probably still loves you so that is a great sign. You, you, you. You have got to work on you. I know its cliche and everyone says it, but DO IT. Do the 180's. Anyway, there is hope and it sounds to me like you have a great chance to win her back. I won mine back about a year and a half ago, and she gets more affectionate every day. Hell I even got a text the other day that said...I luv you i luv youetc until page was full. You dont realize how much the little things mean. The touch of her hand on your arm when she sees you. etc etc. We never separated. Lived in same house but felt like a live in separation. But now we are back in love. I think one key is LISTENING and hearing. Look her in the eye and shut your mouth. You might be in limbo for a while, I was for about 6 months, but it will pay off. We bothe attended MC together during limbo, but she admitted just going through the motions. So its up to you to follow db as best you can. It will be the roughest stretch you will EVER go through but you will get there. I'm not on hear much anymore as it tends to bring up bad memories, but I'll check back every once in a while. Sandi and PDT are great. They kept me moving forward. Take all advice in but weigh it all before acting. Good luck. It WILL happen.....