I know I've taken what C has said as license. Stepped over the line to pursuit. Still, if the main point for W is intimacay, I'm trying to figure out how to address this in her mind.
I agree with this. And the C doesn't know your sitch that well yet. The more you let her know your sitch, I think the more helpful she'll be. And you have been pursuing, and I don't think your C would recommend that hopefully. I've seen this lately, someone in my life has been very pursuing, and it's a turnoff.
The vibrator friend of your W's sounds like poison, for your W and your marriage and family. Does she hang out with many friends like that? I think often times the friends you spend with can be very influential, either positive or negative.
I think detaching is very important. It helps lessen the pain and is esp. good for you. Someone posted a link to detachment and I love it and have read it several times. It's at: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/ I don't think you can DB for very long without working on detachment.
I think you have gotten some great advice from Nell. Work on 180s, GAL sometimes away from your home, and GAL with your kids too. And everything that Nell said.
