I went inside after the last post, stood in front of her and thanked her for bbbeing closer and more affectionate with me this week. She seemed genuinely touched. Then she told me it wasn't just for me.
That was nice to hear.
I want to 'take' her!
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Once again...I'm sure that she's planning to go still, but this will give her plenty to think about while she is alone in her new place.
I had previously been thinking that a night like this would lead to some big epiphany and things would suddenly get better. I'm not expecting that anymore. I'm more along the lines of thinking that these are drops in the bucket helping to fill it up.
When we were done..."cuddling" she is the one who asked to stay in with me. This preceeded by her initiating some of the kissing earlier, saying the affection this week wasn't just for me, curling her head into my neck/shoulder and saying that she wanted to sleep there because it is a place of "comfort" for her have all been really nice.
She didn't get clingy 'after' last night, but did say how comfortable she was. No ILY's and I'm sure she is still planning to go, but I'm going to just spend the morning reflecting on some of the positives.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I had previously been thinking that a night like this would lead to some big epiphany and things would suddenly get better. I'm not expecting that anymore. I'm more along the lines of thinking that these are drops in the bucket helping to fill it up.
When we were done..."cuddling" she is the one who asked to stay in with me. This preceeded by her initiating some of the kissing earlier, saying the affection this week wasn't just for me, curling her head into my neck/shoulder and saying that she wanted to sleep there because it is a place of "comfort" for her have all been really nice.
Same thing with me last night. She slept in our bed, no real cuddling or affection but I can almost feel the weight on her shoulders with her planning on leaving this next weekend.
I'm 100% serious when I say I have no idea what the day, let alone the next hour, will bring in my world! It sounds like you may be slowly headed in the right direction.
M 33, W 30, SD 10, D 5, S 4
Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!
Same thing with me last night. She slept in our bed, no real cuddling or affection but I can almost feel the weight on her shoulders with her planning on leaving this next weekend.
I'm 100% serious when I say I have no idea what the day, let alone the next hour, will bring in my world! It sounds like you may be slowly headed in the right direction.
When I said 'cuddling' I meant we went at it like bunnies. We laid there undressed just touching and kissing afterward for a while and went at it again. It was sensual and comfortable. Just no overtly stated ILY's or "I never want to be w/o you" type of things were said.
Apparently your W is as conflicted as mine. I'll jump to your thread and comment more on that in a bit.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Sometimes I can't decide if this intimacy, even hugs/kisses, is good or bad. I can imagine being addicted to drugs..it has to be similar! The high and the low afterwards.
M 33, W 30, SD 10, D 5, S 4
Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!
