I agree, Julia. Only you know when the right time is & you will know & can feel comfortable with getting D. Jody said once to me that as long as there is an ow & your H is still M his relationship can only go so far. In some way it is a comfort zone for him.
Stay strong!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)