Gima, I remember that early in my sitch W was acting like everything was going to be OK, but was REALLY hesitant to talk about it. One day at the MC office (back when we were going) she said something to the effect that she didn't want to say that we were going to work this out. It felt to her like she would be giving the green light to going back to how things used to be. She was unhappy with how things used to be so she has a big fear of going back to the old marriage.
It sounds like your W may be in a similar spot. Your limbo may feel better to her than her memory of what your old M was like. She may like the changes and the R improvements, but fear that they will go away and you will go back to how things used to be if you go back to Married Mode.
I know you're against mind reading, but there may be some value in trying to understand the other team to help in your game planning.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
