So last night my parents took the kids so Dan and I could go over details.
He called me to ask if I had eaten dinner. Then he said he was coming to pick me up and take me out to eat. So we went out for Mexican, he paid.
We came back home and filled out the October calendar. Then I had a checklist of things to go over so we could get things settled.
Things like insurance, visitation schedule, birthdays, holidays, etc. He said any time he had the kids for a holiday, I was welcome to be there. I told him his future gf/wife wouldn't appreciate that. He said he didn't give a sh!t what they would have to say. Regardless, I told him we needed to assign each holiday and then go from there. So we did.
We talked financial settlement, he wants to give me more than I was asking for. He admitted in his email last week that he tries to show love for me by providing financially when I want to be held and told/shown. (Diff love languages obviously).
So I told him I was asking for what I thought was fair and he said he still wanted to give me more but it was up to me.
Then we went over insurance, he said that I could stay on his forever if I wanted to. Again I said his future relationships and mine would not like that. He said again he didn't care. I told him to leave the kids on until adulthood, and me for 1 year because I can opt-in to my work insurance next May.
So we covered a few more things on the list and then it was all covered. He has not had the receipt of service notarized but said he would get it done for me. A few things I mentioned you could tell he hadn't thought about and he got that sick look on his face. But, not my problem.
The whole thing was calm and controlled, nobody got mad. We both were close to tears a couple times but I pushed forward down the list. I am going to type it up for him to review and then give it to my attorney so I can find out if we are good. No trial means everything will be MUCH cheaper, which is definitely a good thing.
