So, you asked what's wrong and you actually got an answer? Good for you.
You know Lan, your wife hasnt been the role model as a wife, but still, supporting her thru these difficult times is something you should focus on. And supporting means in my book "not leave her alone". Be there, try to open up discussions about how she feels, dont offer solutions, just tell her you know how hard it is on her. You know, you have read all the books on the market. Use the knowledge you have. xxx K