UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Lost Rabbit]

You drunken bum Nell lol! Ok will try and explain better as its probably me too!

If you GAL H's feels hes OK to leave you

If you go BUNNY BOILER, he feels he is RIGHT to leave you and enforces it further

The first is amicable and leaves you in a good position holding your own, the second is chasing him further away and leaving you in a worse position.

I hope that makes more sense, to me the first way only does one lot of damage in your eyes and the second two lots of damage..

If it dont make sense dont over analyse its probably me lol! and perhaps tomorrow I can say it in english!

Honestly I think you really need to GAL if H had died on that day, you would have grieved but had to have moved on, so what would you have done, things you wanted to do, get a list and work through them, have your own MLC and be selfish for yourself and the things you want to do, look at it as if/when H comes home you will want to devote time to him, so now you need to get all those things you want to do done first..