Some wise words from Sanderieka, and good to have a slightly tweaked DB version to digest too! Like I said before the weekend it really has to be slightly adapted to suit some.
My observation from reading all the weekends reports is that you see GAL and DB'ing when is working well for you that H sees it as a green light you are ok and he can move on! Put a spin on it! IMHO I reckon that it might be validating him feeling youre ok and he can move on, but what is 100% is that every time you go PLOT LOST for want of a better word you are validating him leaving twice fold.
If you get to a washing machine/lawn mower disaster, come and rant on here first, a) it will make you feel better b) someone might have an idea what to do c) you will have been sidelined from losing it with H. You are a panicker just like me, and what works for Mr Rabbit is watching when I would normally lose/blow it and I dont, and believe me I know how hard it is not to lose it, I could so easily have just flipped when I got back yesterday, it took everything and twice over to ignore him packing and go tidying myself up and come down looking happy, if I had lost it despite that H obviously looked shattered, worried, he would have cut his nose of to spite his face and driven the three hours home.. I made it ok for him to stay by being ok myself.. Im not blowing my own trumpet at all, just totally empathising the amount of energy it takes to do stuff that your whole body tells you, you cant! Will be around today so feel free to rant away at me..
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