not as ok as I thought I was

[happycamper]

That's so true. Reading that gives me a lot of strength in my path, thank you.

Funnily enough, he came round last night to drop off the children and he'd had a good couple of weeks with the g/f. He was quite happy with the divorce and didn't seem to mind. Clearly he is trying to manipulate me when things go wrong with her.

If I can remember these conversations with him and how differently he felt toward me depending on what was going on at home, it will be helpful.