My heart goes out to you mate, I have been through a similar hell and know exactly what you're going through.
About the affair.
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While the percentage of those here dealing with A's is very high, not every sitch has one.
I would say the percentage of attendant infidelity to people's situations here is about 99%. Those who say there isn't infidelity haven't looked hard enough.
Remember Rule #1 - ALL CHEATERS LIE. It comes as natural and as effortlessly to them as breathing and going to the toilet.
Rule #2 - Remember Rule #1.
I would be amazed if your wife is not having an affair and believe me, if you're interested in saving your marriage, you will need to know.
Referring to Rule #1, that all cheaters lie, the very last thing you can trust to determine whether an affair is in progress is the suspected adulterer's word.
For your own sanity, get the facts. Then once you have them, refer to Puppy's routine for breaking up the affair.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
