So how do you keep calm? I've seen this work a couple of times with my sitch. But I'm so stressed out after.
I've been working on it for a long time. I literally bite my tongue! I stop trying to focus on changing him and focus on myself. I remind myself I WANT TO STAY CALM and mentally talk myself down. I remind myself H is not rational at that moment and that saying anything will just escalate things -
then I try to get space and self soothe.
It's most challenging when in front of S5. I want to stay in the room and protect my S. Sometimes I take S into the other room. But mostly I look into his little eyes and think that I want to role model something more mature than what H is possessed by.
