Forward and BeingMe, thankyou for your replies, I so wish the train wreck that ex has created would hurry up and bring him to his senses, especially I dont want to see him lose the home we lived in, he worked damn hard and damn hard hours whilst he was with me to pay for that place, it would be such a shame to see it sell or be repossesed, it isnt even that i want ex back now, it is the sheer fact that i DONT want to see him end up with absolutely nothing, whatever he has done to us I wouldnt wish that or anything else on him, i just wish he had the balls to get away from her whilst he still has something left, regards