If you look at my stitch will will find the vampire post. It really brings things to the light. I started noticing patterns with my H that fit at least half the stuff. I ended up passing it on to my sister who seen about 95% of in her now ex boyfriend. Then she passed it on to her friend who ended up seeing her now ex boyfriend in it too.
My H has stopped being like that to a point but I can still see him doing that vampire thing when it suits him.
I think that you should wait to tell the kids dwhat is going on until you know for positive yourself. I told my girls that me and H were getting a D and that we were moving. I explained it all and told them what to expect. 2 weeks later, it all changed again. Though they were happy that we were not getting a D they were confused by what I had told them and then was changing on them. Yes my kids are younger than yours, but I still think that you should wait until there is something solid to tell them.
Stay strong girl!! You know what is best for you and what will make you a happy woman again. It is so hard to take that leap of faith but who know's, you may find out like some others on here, that you wished that you would have made that leap sooner.
Keep your chin up, we are all cheering for you.
P.S. What about some sort of volunteer work? Lots of places need help and it is also a great place to find other people that like to give of themselves in a good way. I have made many new freinds since I started volunteering with the girl scouts (both my girls are in it). I have found that most of the people that I met are not selfish, selfcentered, or abusive people. I like this little circle that I have found myself in.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
