I try to be careful, not drill my kids. S8 tends to spill the beans on either parent without any bidding. Not that I have anything to be ashamed about, and certainly nothing that violates any consent order. (I do sense the hand of exW at times when S8 launches into saying something about his mother, and then catches himself and begins to reverse his words. She has obviously coached him to "not say anything to Daddy". Given her antics of late, she probably has to "remind" him quite a lot. And I know that with S8 that wouldn't work too well, he can't help it.)
On the other hand, during tonight's call I got more than a little tired of hearing S8 talk about the OM -- on and on and on. I tried to sound interested and was genuinely happy S8 and S4 are having a good time, but I was wincing every time he mentioned OM being at the center of all their fun. It was so bad that I began to wonder where xW was while all of this was going on -- I'm sure she was there, but it's odd there was hardly any mention of their mother.
Eventually I managed to gently/not-so-gently steer the conversation back to where we were talking about them, sans OM (I could care less about if he is enjoying himself.)
So, what I'm hearing is that the consent order is not worth the paper it's written on, huh? That's not a good thing then.
Oh, and before anyone says anything -- Hell, yeah, I'm jealous -- these are my children, not his (OM). My willingness to forgive and forget ends where my children's interests lie. If anyone thinks that's wrong, then sue me!
