Yes, in the past I did respond to his messages right away. And I would also check in to see what he was doing, if he was coming over, to tell him things about our DD, to ask questions about our marriage, etc.
Buttercup, yes we have different situations. I've poured my heart out for the last yr telling my H how much I love him, want to keep our family together, how we appreciate him, etc. I have gone through stages where I contacted him daily then sort of ignored everything. But this time it is different, I'm not giving in this time.
I told him tons of times that I love him and want to make our marriage work. So, I'm doing things different...not responding, not forcing conversations regarding our marriage and I'm GAL.
The only message I sent him today was - "We are having a great day on our own." Everything is still hard, but pulling back lifts some of the burden off my shoulders. I don't have to sit and focus on it all day long. I've got better and healthier things to do with my time.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
