W asked for 1 wk no contact. I don't know if I want to talk to her any more. I feel betrayed now, forsaken just when it's most important to stick together. She bragged about getting a mohawk (she was a punk-rocker growing up) and I just wanted to tell her to shut up. I said nothing but it seems like she's going through a MLC. She leaves the kids home with her goofy friend.

I did a lot of the same kinds of things. I wanted to go back and be in my 20s again, date new girls, drink and be irresponsible. But I found out that that's not real. At the end of that rainbow is heartache and loss. You can't go back. I want to be the grown up. But I can't say anything to her. She'll just resist, run even further from me.

And then by the time she figures it out for herself?

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)