She tells me she has abandonment issues...not sure what that means...sad fo sure
This means that at some point in her life, someone important abandoned her big-time. Often this will have been a parent rather than someone like a friend of BF. So when she faces situations where someone important isn't 'there for her' now, it dredges up all of the feelings from before. The people and events get all mixed up together in her head and feelings. Additionally, this mean that when she reacts to a perceived abandonment now, she may react all out of proportion to what's actually going on.
Depending on how bad it was in the original sitch, feelings of abandonment can get triggered by something as small as her boss at work not being supportive enough. I say boss because typically this stuff arises with authority figures if the original sitch involved a parent, and with romantic partners or very close friends.
Does that help any?
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
