I face the same reality, he wants back, and he is more serious about it, but weirdly, during our convos, the kids are not mentioned as much and to be honest, I try to keep them out of my mind. It still sucks...
Yes, when it comes down to it, the kids are not enough to make the M work...and, as much as I wouldn't be able to tolerate a cr*ppy marriage for my kids "benefit," I understand that H has the right to refuse that too. That is what defuses my resentment. If he can't do it with feeling, then he doesn't serve anyone by coming back...
