Hi GIMA! - I have previously read quite a bit on your sitch and some of your posts due to your having a similiar sitch with separate bedrooms, still living in same house. I really appreciate your input.
I had a softball size benign tumor on the back of my left shoulder that had to be taken out. I am doing well though, recovering and recouping.
I really hadn't considered the guilt factor. My mind was going to all sorts of other places. Does he just want to get a reaction from me = jealousy/anger? Does he just want to show the OW that he doesn't have romantic feelings/attraction for me anymore and she can rest easy that we are just "friends" now and I am no competition for her = she is younger, hotter, better body, etc.? Ugh...all these crazy thoughts that I still woke up with this morning. But while I made breakfast this a.m. I decided to put it to bed along with all the other crazy days/weeks I've had to go through, just put it to rest with all of them and do exactly what you suggested. Continue on with my GALing.
I love that list and have been living religiously by it. Just have to keep on keeping on.
Could be guilt, could be cake eating - maybe he just doesn't want to make that "leap" until he is "certain" she will accept him.
It's a marathon, not a print.
I wouls not meet OW nor would I give him advice what to do about her. He's a big boy, and he has to make the decision he thinks is the right onw.
