Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Gardener]

HM,

...given that perception is reality, how does one combat festering resentment after the almost inevitable slights of a marriage?

A question I struggle with on and off. When it's on I tell myself two things:
1)If I'm feeling resentment again, then detachment is getting away from me. So I mentally forgive. Can't forgive and resent at the same time.
2)"Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping your enemy will die from it."
Actually, ignore the quotation marks since it's really a paraphrase of something I recently read (I forget where and by whom at the moment).
Fwiw.