Yes, I would be very careful, indeed. Be a distant friend, if friend at all. I think he fell for a con artist, one who sinks her/his teeth into someone, bleeds them dry (and then some) and then leaves for another victim. Your H is only now realising how much he might've bled. Protect your S. Don't let him lend/give his dad anything. He has been a fool, wasted his own father's money that he probably worked his life for, so it would be awful if he gets money from his son. (And, I think this is all the vampire OW's doing.)
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BeingMe, I hear you too my friend, firstly there is no way no how ex will ever get any of sons money as that is all in my name and it is their for sons future, dad gave him nothing out of what he inherited so the kid as to have some from somewhere. secondly I agree big style in what your saying about ex's wifey yes she is a con artist and ex isnt the first she as done this to, I am just seeing how long she sticks it out with him now the pot is empty, I could be wrong and they could live happily ever after without money, but this isnt what lifestyle she enjoys and hopefully she will move on to the next victim, ex is her fourth marriage and she as had plenty of other victims over the time, wifey is behind each and everything that ex as done and is doing, but like we know how they change and ex is definately a changed man, not nice to see he is a complete opposite of everything he was and does things ie moneyless and getting into debt etc things he would have never ever done, and it as all gone on her, wasted, but no one can change what hes done it is just a shame to see what is coming and I think sometime soon, but who knows
Mandy Is the spending b/c of the crises or the OW MY xH like yours has lost everything he is in deep dept and he too M ow MY brother thought xh M ow b/c her family had some money or a business to offer him something but he doesnt seem to have any backup plan and why would a 28 yr old woman marry a 42 year old in deep debr there was a time he did have lots of money but that is over and there will be no way for hin to ever remake that kind of money as I run the business now he gets salary thats it so Is it the ow or the crises I think I asked this before peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Peacetoday, I am unsure how he as got himself into this situation, you ask is it the crisis or the ow, how can you tell, all I know is that ex was always so cautious with money, always had to have some on back up for if anything broke or needed replacing. He inherited a great deal from his fathers estate, took off with ow and away it as gone, from most of what I hear its all gone on things for her, wedding, plenty of holidays, home extension, partying most nights, sitting at home together instead of working, all of it and every last penny has gone to her. should they ever split up she will be ok, her parents have their own business albeit they handed it over to son and paid her equal shares some years ago, so she as spent her share of the business as well, but she will have the house they are in, she still has a car, her parents will give her money, what will he have absolutely zero. so it could be the crisis or it could just be the sheer fact that he is so deep into her that he as lost everything and gets into debt because he is afraid to lose her now he is up to the armpits in crap, dunno peace its hard to tell
Sounds like he'll have to do something about it, eh?
I think something the LBSers have in common is that we were often the "fixers" in the relationship. I know that in my case, I did so much fixing that H never really grew up. Good ol' Forward was always there to clean up the mess.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
That is so true, Forward. In my case anyway --- always giving him one more chance.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Forward and BeingMe, thankyou for your replies, I so wish the train wreck that ex has created would hurry up and bring him to his senses, especially I dont want to see him lose the home we lived in, he worked damn hard and damn hard hours whilst he was with me to pay for that place, it would be such a shame to see it sell or be repossesed, it isnt even that i want ex back now, it is the sheer fact that i DONT want to see him end up with absolutely nothing, whatever he has done to us I wouldnt wish that or anything else on him, i just wish he had the balls to get away from her whilst he still has something left, regards
