For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

Hi bluerain, thanks for the reminder that detaching is about not allowing myself to be totally wrapped up and overwhelmed by what's going on - paralized with fear, panic, desperation.

Overall, I've had a pretty good week and I did a good job of not contacting him.

To answer you question - no, I don't want to be treated like crap. So it's better to avoid him at this point - until he makes the effort to be nice and respectful.

And you're right - when Friday wasn't a good day for me. When I was down in the dumps and short on patience, I should have made myself get out do and something.

So yesterday - H sent me a text around 10:30am asking if DD and I were at home. I was at the library with her so I didn't respond. When we got home around 12:00pm, he was here. He was outside mowing. DD and I did our own thing, ate lunch, played a game and then she was ready for a nap. When she was sleeping, I left without saying anything to him and didn't come until 6:00pm. He ended up staying at our house until 10:30pm. He was watching the football game and DD was jumping around the bed while he watched the game. When we put her to bed, he left.

I don't understand his behavior at all. But whatever...while he was here, I just did my own thing - cleaned a little, made my grocery list, gave DD a bath, got online, took a shower. I sort of just ignored him.

I wonder if he notices my lack of interest in what he's doing and what he thinks about it - if anything.