Showing your children stregnth and shielding them from the pain is not deceiving them. Yes you need to be open and honest with them if they know something is wrong, but you must take into consideration their age and do your best to explain things to them accordingly.
Everyone who posts here that has children knows how you feel. This is not easy by any means. If you continue to focus on the pain instead of healthy ways to deal with it, you will become angry and bitter.
Fallgirl,
I confide, via email, in a group of online friends who do not know H. This is something I wrote to them recently: "I...try, as I always have, to set the best example I can for my [children] about dealing with the uncertainties of life. That I am acutely aware of that responsibility has helped me through so many things...[including] my separation from their father. Motherhood is a powerful motivator."
Can you reset your thinking, and see what a wonderful example of strength and self-control and patience and resilience you are to your children? They are learning so much from watching you right now.
Keep going. Tomorrow will be better!
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
