Of course it made him angrier. When they think we are moving on, it makes it hard for them, no matter what they say. If you had done nothing but wallow in pity and sorrow in from of him, he would have been angry because you WEREN'T moving on. The mind of the crisis.
Kids are extremly observant. Yes they know something is not right. It is hard to tell them anything when you have no concrete plan because they look to us for answers that we just might not have. I'm sorry you feel like you deceived them. IMO, you were just trying to give them balance and protect them until you had a better way to answer the questions they will have.
So tell me, how much of these changes were for you and how many of them were to try to save the M? It is said all the time but bears repeating, if the changes are not real, they will know. How do they know? Because we can't fully live them if they aren't real.
Trapt said it best "You have been here long enough to know better than this. Are you forgetting that he is in a crisis?"
(((hugs))))
I am going to try to post a piece of an email that I received the other day from someone who experienced an MLC. Maybe it will help.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
