LOL.. hasn't fully dislodged his head. I think that might be the best explanation yet!
Hi Friend It sounds like you're in a good place right now emotionally. Your H really has been moving towards you in baby steps. I remember when you would get nervous about how he'd act the next time you saw him and that endless cold shoulder of his. Then he didn't treat you as a friend. I think you have a friend nowadays. Your H is clinging to his independence. Why do you think that is? Do you think he's gradually moved into a stage of life where he's just comfortable with what he has because what he wants seems so hard to strive for? For instance.. maybe he likes the peace and comfort of your R and believes that getting closer would require revisiting the past or "working" on the R? I continue to wonder if he's in a "male menopause" and having issues that his pride won't allow him to reveal to you. It's easier to push you away than to feel like less of a man to you. Yes, pure speculation! Pride, shame, fear, fatigue.. all can keep us stuck.
Have you been acting as if? Is there a wall of unspoken stuff between ya'll? As much as you can predict his actions, rejection, ets.. I bet he can predict yours too. What would happen if you arrived at a meeting and went to sit by him acting like it's no big deal? What if you started seeking him out as your husband? Do you think he'd revert back to his former rejections and withdraw?
How's the weather there? Is it getting chilly? We've had TONS of rain here. The boys have played half their soccer and football games in the rain. Nothing smells better than a couple of wet, sweaty boys! lol Did I tell you we moved into a bigger house last Jan? More room, more cleaning We love it though! And the best news for last.. J and I are gonna be grandparents!! The baby is due in April. Please send up some prayers for baby Foof (don't ask, I have no idea why they're calling it that lol).
It sounds like you're in a good place right now emotionally. Your H really has been moving towards you in baby steps. I remember when you would get nervous about how he'd act the next time you saw him and that endless cold shoulder of his. Then he didn't treat you as a friend. I think you have a friend nowadays. Your H is clinging to his independence. Why do you think that is? Do you think he's gradually moved into a stage of life where he's just comfortable with what he has because what he wants seems so hard to strive for? For instance.. maybe he likes the peace and comfort of your R and believes that getting closer would require revisiting the past or "working" on the R? I continue to wonder if he's in a "male menopause" and having issues that his pride won't allow him to reveal to you. It's easier to push you away than to feel like less of a man to you. Yes, pure speculation! Pride, shame, fear, fatigue.. all can keep us stuck. 
