I was wondering - since women are generally more amenable to reading relationship books than men are, perhaps it might be a good idea to ask Mrs. Thinker to read 5LL or DR or somesuch. 5LL because you could both do the tests and perhaps agree to try some small gestures toward each other, and DR because of the part about setting small, actionable goals and being able to ask each other for what you need.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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