BTW, he could still change my mind. In a dreamworld, if he fought and resisted and showered me with flowers, poems, letters, purses and shoes, booked a romantic trip to Venice, quit his job, cried and begged, then I would agree to try again. I am a material girl, what can I say?
These would be ACTIONS and a show of real commitment from him.
I understand what you are saying about the financial part of a D in Greece and I would recommend you continuing to pursue this w/him to get him to move on it.
However, in fairness to him (even if he doesn't deserve it, you may want to consider it...and I know you've already bent over backwards too much), would you consider telling him after he files that he "has one year to make you change your mind"?
Also, can you demand he goes back to therapy as well? Even if you don't make it through this (and the odds are long that you can right now), he needs to get himself healthy in the head in order to provide correctly for your kids and be the father they need.
I know you may say that you've "done all of this already" but I am just asking you to consider it b/c if this was needed to be put into play one last time and it happened to save your M, isn't it worth a shot? If all it does is confirm your beliefs and strengthens your own resolve, isn't it worth saying, bluntly and directly again? If it makes your stbx a better, more confident and healthy man even if you two are no longer married, wouldn't it be worth putting out there for the sake of your kids?
I could be way off and as always, just take what I say and use the usable while tossing the rest, my friend.
