I find it amazing that people think the opposite of detaching is to be cold & rude. They also seem to think the opposite of being Mr. Nice Guy is a selfish jerk. That is not it at all. It is showing "tough love" by standing up to his WAW and calling her on her BS and not allowing her to walk on him. Can't he show strength this way without being a selfish jerk?
It's not that the opposite of a nice guy is a jerk, or that it's an either or situation. And yet, what is noticed and noticeable is that many females tend to be attracted to that jerk type behavior like a moth to a very large flame. Also equallyimportant is that any response or deviation in behavior from what is normal andexpected is often met with resistance. Whether that is because "dominant" partner is no longer going to get her way every single time, or because it's just a learned response matters not.
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)
