Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

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Hi TEGH

You've been in my thoughts and I'm wondering how you are going.

All the best, V

Greetings Virginia,

Thought I'd check in today and notice a couple of recent messages. I am going fine. It's a drizzly, gray day outside and I'm doing more intensive "inside" work (Vacuuming, mopping floors, etc.) than I would typically do on a Saturday.

I'm also scanning some pictures (in the background) on a new wireless all-in-one I purchased (my flatbed scanner bit the dust) and I'm scanning some prints where I can't find the negatives. Some great memories in some of those pictures out on the Columbia River in Oregon. I had forgotten how good looking we all were (another part of my "breakout period" after my first marriage).

Things are a bit quieter and smoother than the last time I posted here. Still no sexual intimacy but quite a bit of discussion of each of our points of view. At times it gets almost to the point of an argument but we've managed to reel that back in (or at least I have).

Letting her stew for a couple of weeks turned out to be a good thing to do. As I pointed out, multiply that by several hundred times and you begin to approach the way my life feels to me.

It still looks to me that, at the end of the day, I'll still end up with a totally sexless marriage. It will come down to whether I leave for a realtionship that includes sexual intimacy or stay in one that does not and will not.