You asked a question that I thing really does deserve a response. You asked if we are sure they are watching.
Yes, absolutly they are watching. You might not think so, but they are.
How do we know? Because we have been there. If you read through even some current threads, you can see what has happened and the reaction from the MLCer. If they were not watching, there would not be any reactions.
Yes what you do will affect the outcome of this. You can be a total butt and she will most definately feel very justified in divorcing and then you will both have anger and hurt, and you will probably have guilt that you were such a butt.
Or you can do the work, become a better person, behave in ways that you can be proud of, and you MAY remain married or you MAY get divorced. There are no guarantees in this.
It is up to you. That is where your power in this lies. Go read Trapt's latest thread and get a glimpse down the road.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
