I'm trying not to project but all signs are pointing just the way they pointed the last time the bomb was dropped. I'm really trying not to be frightened. I'm actually feeling so helpless and angry at him for doing this to our daughter if he really does want out and means it this time. He's very ill mentally, he needs so much help. UGH...
From what you say, it sounds like he's more depressed more than anything. Nothing you can do about that. He needs to help himself.
Is he having an EA or PA do you think?
If he drops the bomb, you know the drill. No chasing, begging, pleading, or attempts at logic or reasoning. Drop the rope. Focus on you and your daughter. Detaching is so important for you, b/c you have to try to keep his depression from effecting you as much as you can.
Don't pin all your hopes on Retro. I know it's good (from what I hear around here), but it's not the end of the world or your marriage if he doesn't attend. I would apply no pressure for him to attend if he doesn't want to. Say ok and go do some GAL.
