One more thing I meant to talk about. Have you read the book, "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Smalley? You need to. It is very obvious that your LL is physical touch, but her's probably isn't. As long as she's a WAW, you can probably forget about her wanting you to touch her. If anything, she will more than likely cringe at the thought of it. I am just being honest and telling you how a lot of WAW's feel. I know this hits below the belt with most men and they think they can't live in a M without sex....but if you love her enough to do the work, then you "can" wait it out. I wanted you to know that you must stop expecting her to suddenly change her mind and start showing you physical touching b/c until she feels that her needs are being met, she isn't going to fill your needs. She has felt her needs were denied for several years and you didn't care to make sure her needs were met.....and now she may have found OM who would meet those needs. She did without--trying to to give you time to come around in the M , so now you will have to do without trying to give her time. Do you understand what I'm saying?
Also, on the marriage builders web site is information about "Her Needs/His Needs" and there is a book by that title that you should read. I think you need to know what your W's LL is and what her emotional needs are. Until you do, I don't think things are going to improve a lot.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
